When you have worked the many different jobs that I have over the years you start to figure out people, the things they say, body and face language, whether they are genuine or to what level of integrity they hold themselves in their action or inaction. So you start to set up guards when meeting people and depending on the level of drama someone brings with them, you can immediately assess whether you want to hang out with this person on semi or regular basis or not at all.
I am not someone that needs a lot of friends, when i look at who i still keep in touch with on a regular basis i have come to realize i have pockets of friends from various times in my life, Facebook def helps with keeping tabs on people that aspect, and i wonder if that wasnt around would i still keep in touch with as many people as I do now.
I also dont believe that having a friend, if they are a true friend, requires constant or consistent communication. I have various friends from childhood, university, work life, that i have not spoken to in a number of years but if the opportunity arose where we could get together there would be an immediate reconnection that time would not have been able to dull or disintegrate.
In University I was lucky enough to meet up with 5 other people that shared interests, loved a good time, could totally geek out when it wasnt cool to do so, and didnt take things too seriously. My days in University were def better because of these people and although we are spread out around Nova Scotia and beyond, it wouldnt matter, because the moment we would be given the opportunity to be together it would be like no time passed.
One of these 5 folks is Dave. I think everyone has a Dave from their University days, and I wont go to far into what makes Dave, Dave, but even with the passage of time, job, marriage, kids etc. Dave at his core is still the same person. We both are professed geeks and have a lot of the same interests as we pounce into our 40s and as mentioned a few weeks back have decided to try the Epic Dartmouth 5k swim at the end of June.
Dave and I were both life guards, swim team members at our high schools, taught lessons etc. etc. etc. so swimming the 5k seems like a great chance to test our 40+ year old dad bods.
As mentioned in a previous blog post we had the chance to break bread at a Halifax eatery a month or so ago and conversation moved to what we were planning for the summer. We decided then to do the 5k swim, as a test of our 40ish endurance but also to have the opportunity to swim together and participate in the same adventure.
Luckily Dave was in the Nish for a leadership conference and we were able to hit the pool to see how we matched up in terms of pace and distance. We elected to do a 2500m swim due to time, but also to see how compatible we were going to be.
I am the slower of the two of us, but it was great to have Dave push the pace at times and we ended up putting in a 51minute time on the 2.5k which for me was about 9 minutes faster then my previous attempt.
We both felt great after the swim, and had more energy so it bodes well for the swim at the end of June.
There are obviously differences between open water and pool swimming but we are both pumped to give it a go. So training continues.
We also had the chance to do a 5k run the following morning. Dave said that he hadnt gone farther then 3k before, but I kept telling him not to worry he could get to 5k because my pace is incredibly slow. My wife calls my pace a trot and I am inclined to agree and also, I am a pretty pony.
This was my first out door run of the year so it was nice to have someone else to run and chat with.
Our route was very flat ( the landing for those with knowledge of the area) but it was a great first run with the scenery and nice to show Dave a different part of Antigonish. We posted a 41minute time, which is a little slower then what i had been doing on the treadmill but decent.
Dave was pretty pumped to have met the goal and i think realized that you dont have to go flat out when running these races, if you are just doing it for yourself it really doesnt matter how fast you go.
The rest of the week went like dis:
Monday: 2500m swim
Tuesday: 5k run + 20km bike ride
Wednesday: 2x750m swim + 5km run
Friday: 2500m swim with Dave
Saturday: 5km run with Dave
So overall a great week, for the work put in and for the friendship and support as well.
I am really looking forward to the swim at the end of June, finishing any race is an awesome feeling, but getting to finish a race with friend makes it that much better. Plus we both like cigars, with the race being on a Sunday...well that is going to be a well deserved #cigarSunday.
Sean "BigBoyRunning" Ryan